With many stuck at home for the foreseeable future, this can be an opportunity to improve our homes and our routines using Emotional Intelligence (EI). It can be tricky navigating your entire family’s worth of responsibilities, needs, and frustrations all contained under one roof. Try keeping these 5 tips in mind for making your home more harmonious using lessons from EI.
1. Conflict Mediation
EI can help us navigate through familial conflicts and find resolutions that please everyone. Research shows that people feel most satisfied in relationships where conflict is not avoided, but it is mediated to everyone’s liking. The study found partners who rated each other high in EI were most likely to be able to find positive outcomes for their conflicts.
2. Developing Mindfulness in Children
An emotionally intelligent upbringing is shown time and time again to have profound implications for a child’s development. In a recent article, I talk about high EI having a tangible effect on school performance, ability to recognize and regulate emotional states, and social skills. Even toddlers can be labeled early in life by teachers, peers, family and friends based on their social awareness. These skills better equip them socially throughout childhood, fostering an increasingly harmonious household.
3. Everyone Feels Listened To
A harmonious household is one where everyone listens to each other. This can be listening to your child share their feelings about an event coming up at school or listening to your partner share their work frustrations at the dinner table. Whatever form it takes, everyone needs to feel like their life matters to someone else and this is found across the board in emotionally intelligent households.
For instance, sitting down for dinner together without mobile devices is a great habit to begin in infancy through to, at least, high school. Children begin observing from the moment they are born and if they observe you listening to your phone more than their cries, then it’s likely they will become poor listeners later in life.
4. Emotionally Intelligent Decorating
Furthermore, how you choose to organize your furniture and living spaces can have a huge effect on your well-being. Finding a balance between comfort and aesthetics is paramount for maintaining happiness levels and listening to what makes your family comfortable and how they like the furniture arranged is key. Make sure everyone has a space that they can make their own and feel comfortable in.
5. Setting Short-Term Goals
By using EI, each family member can establish short-term goals and projects to keep them busy while stuck at home and not feel like time is being wasted. Whatever the goal is, treat it like a job or school and work every day to try to meet those goals. Whether it’s a short or long term goal, EI teaches focus, mindfulness, and determination, all of which are going to be necessary to meet those goals.